Get Back To Inner Peace After A Breakup

I used to be friends with several ex-boyfriends.

I would hang out with them regularly. I would invite them out on the weekends. I would chat with them on the phone.

One of them eventually became a best friend. My inner circle couldn’t understand how I could continue to include the men I had previously dated in my life. Some of those relationships had been challenging. A couple of those relationships hadn’t ended so well. But somehow after doing plenty of soul searching and licking my wounds, I found the space in my heart to continue to include them in my life, in a new way.

HOW IS THAT POSSIBLE?

Contrary to what you may believe, when a relationship ends, you don’t have to become archenemies or strangers with your ex. This concept may be foreign to you. Perhaps you had a relationship that was full of conflict. You could have been abused. Mistreated. The list could go on and on.

I am certainly not condoning ANY sort of mistreatment, abuse, disrespect, or inhumane act that you encountered. I am not going to convince you to remain in a toxic or unhealthy relationship. I definitely don’t want you to bypass the experience you had on a spiritual or emotional level either.

Sometimes the most loving thing we can do for ourselves and for another person is to say goodbye, permanently.

What I want for you post-breakup is to get back to a place of peace and wholeness within yourself.

This process MAY include your ex. Or it may look like letting him or her go for good. Either way, it is perfect because your choice will come from a place of deep love, trust and truth within you.

WHAT WE HAVE LEARNED ABOUT ROMANCE IS MOSTLY UNTRUE

This idea that we have to “hate our ex,” comes from a very outdated belief system. I believe that this idea was etched into our minds long before we even knew what dating was! Think back to when you were a child. You may remember those fairy tales of prince charming and the princess living, “happily ever after.” Those unrealistic storylines set you up for plenty of disappointment and failure in your future partnerships.

Romantic relationships are not about riding off into the sunset with your prince or princess and living a perfect fairy tale life.

It is important to feel loved. Laugh together. Have fun. Be supportive. Etc. But expecting that to occur ALL THE TIME is simply unrealistic.

Romantic partnership is there to foster your personal and spiritual growth. You evolve. You learn. That may occur through the blissful and the not so blissful moments in your partnership. Growing up, I longed to have a fairy tale romance. But after years of constant disappointment I knew I had to shift my perspective.

When I dropped my expectations and attachments around romance there was an immediate shift in how I related to men.

My current partnership is the closest experience I have ever had to a fairy tale. We aren’t riding off into the sunset on a white horse. We certainly have our ups and downs, but I am no longer controlling how it should unfold based on characters in a children’s book or a Hollywood movie. It has made for a far more organic, fluid and enjoyable ride.

 

Read More:

http://www.collective-evolution.com/2014/09/29/getting-back-to-inner-peace-after-a-breakup/

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Spiritual Myths That Are Blocking You From Living Fully

We are on earth with one passion to discover and share

I love this myth. You know, there are some people on the planet who have one passion that transcends their entire lifespan. But imagine you’re like my friend Marie. She was passionate about sewing. She sewed new cushion covers for her entire office and home. She made hats for everybody’s Christmas gifts. She was so good and passionate about it that she said to all her friends “Finally—I’ve discovered my life’s purpose!” Only to be confronted 2 months later that she had an epiphany on her morning hike that she was now meant to teach yoga and it was time to enlist in a yoga teacher training.

She followed that guidance and became a yoga teacher. She shared the yogic teachings for several years, until one day again while in a deep meditation she was met with a flash of knowing that it was time to share her gift of mediumship.

As you can see, life is a delicious ride of twists and turns. Some people will find one passion for their entire lifetime. Others will find passion within a multitude of different modalities. Thinking that there is only one right passion in life can cause anxiety of “getting it wrong.”

It’s impossible to get your passion wrong!

Trust that what you’re in love with and that which flows with ease at this moment is divinely guided passion. When you practice staying present, you will know if your passion changes.

That if This IS TRULY your path, it will be easy

I first heard this from a spiritual teacher of mine. When she told this to me I felt an instant hit of inner knowing that this was true, and that it was such a pervasive myth in spiritual circles.

You see, in many spiritual circles you’re told that if you’re meant to be doing your [insert your soul-guided work here] then it will come easily to you.

The truth is, sometimes the form by which you will share your soul-work may look different than the image you had envisioned.

Take my friend Nancy for example, she is a spiritual clairvoyant and a registered psychotherapist. For years she tried to make her clairvoyant-work be her main source of income. She thought to herself “Shouldn’t it come easy if I’ve been given these gifts? Shouldn’t it just work out if this is my path!?”

She started to see that her gift of clairvoyance actually helped her patients in her psychotherapy path immensely. It ended up helping the people that normally would not have access to her gifts nor those who would not actively be searching out for a clairvoyant healer.

It took many years but she started to see that the path you think will be easy isn’t always the road you will travel. Sometimes the form of how we share our gifts will be different than what we imagined.

You cannot say anything negative for if you do, you will bring crisis to you

I’m all for positive psychology. However it’s a misleading conception that if you dare say any negative statement or feel a negative feeling that you’ll be damned.

The truth is that we’re here on the planet to feel the full range of emotions and to be honest with ourselves about it.

If you feel like it’s wrong to “be sad” or wrong to “feel empty” or any other so-called negative emotion, we actually end up blocking ourselves from the present moment.

When we resist the truth of our emotions we actually keep them around longer. They end up getting buried and we’ll wonder why our positive psychology or that law of attraction isn’t working for us.

 

Read more:

http://www.collective-evolution.com/2015/01/28/5-spiritual-myths/

What Science Is Telling Us About The Heart’s Intuitive Intelligence

The wonderful and brilliant scientists over at the Institute of HeartMath have done some amazing work in shedding light on some very significant findings regarding the science of the heart.

The Institute of HeartMath is an internationally recognized nonprofit research and education organization dedicated to helping people reduce stress, self-regulate emotions and build energy and resilience for healthy, happy lives. HeartMath tools, technology and training teach people to rely on the intelligence of their hearts in concert with their minds at home, school, work and play.

A large portion of their research has investigated heart and brain interaction. Researchers at the institute have examined how the heart and brain communicate with each other and how that affects our consciousness and the way in which we perceive our world.

Their research has shed light on a number of facts, one for example, is when a person is feeling really positive emotions like gratitude, love, or appreciation, that the heart beats out a very different message. They’ve been able to determine this by the fact that the heart beats out the largest electromagnetic field produced in the body, and they can gather data from it.

“Emotional information is actually coded and modulated into these fields. By learning to shift our emotions, we are changing the information coded into the magnetic fields that are radiated by the heart, and that can impact those around us. We are fundamentally and deeply connected with each other and the planet itself.” – Rolin McCratey , Ph.D, Director of Research at the Institute.

This is very important work, as again, it shows how the heart plays an important role far beyond what is commonly known. Did you know that your heart emits electromagnetic fields that change according to your emotions? Did you know that the human heart has a magnetic field that can be measured up to several feet away from the human body?  Did you know that positive emotions create physiological benefits in your body? Did you know that you can boost your immune system by conjuring up positive emotions? Did you know that negative emotions can create a nervous system chaos, and that positive emotions do the complete opposite?  Did you know that the heart has a system of neurons that have both short term and long term memory, and that their signals sent to the brain can affect our emotional experiences? Did you know that in fetal development, the heart forms and starts beating before the brain is developed?  Did you know that a mother’s brainwaves can synchronize to her baby’s heartbeats? Did you know that the heart sends more information to the brain than vice versa?

 

Read more:

http://www.collective-evolution.com/2014/11/24/what-science-is-telling-us-about-the-hearts-intuitive-intelligence/

Change Your Thinking

Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room.

One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs.

His bed was next to the room’s only window.

The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back.

The men talked for hours on end.

They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation..

Every afternoon, when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window.

The man in the other bed began to live for those one hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and color of the world outside.

The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake. Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats. Young lovers walked arm in arm amidst flowers of every color and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance.

As the man by the window described all this in exquisite details, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine this picturesque scene.

One warm afternoon, the man by the window described a parade passing by.

Although the other man could not hear the band – he could see it in his mind’s eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words.

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Days, weeks and months passed. One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths only to find the lifeless body of the man by the window, who had died peacefully in his sleep.

She was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take the body away.

As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could be moved next to the window.

 

Read all here:

http://themindunleashed.org/2014/11/will-take-just-1-minute-read-change-thinking-2.html

Help – I Am Stressed!

Stress has a bad rap – and for good reason.  Trying to avoid it or reduce it though, can be like one of those Chinese tortures where the more you try to wriggle free the tighter it wraps itself around you!

Stress is a reaction to too many demands on our time, or overwhelm of some kind.  The key to freeing yourself from it is hidden in plain sight in my previous sentence, however.

It’s a reaction to circumstances.  You can’t usually control the situation, but you can always choose how you react!

You see?  Stress comes from trying to control everything when there are simply too many things to control.

Stop trying to do that and the stress will evaporate!

Here are three effective ways to do that. (Feel free to come up with more of your own.)

(1) Separate your emotional reaction from the situation.

Find three minutes for this.  (You have to use the bathroom sometime, don’t you?)

Sit quietly and close your eyes.  Now, pay attention to your feelings about whatever is going on.

Let them become intense and then, on a zero to ten scale, (ten being unbearable), grade them.

Now, mentally put those feelings to one side and cast your mind over the facts of the situation.

You know: the boss wants that report yesterday, the kids’ birthday party won’t organize itself, and your bathroom is flooded.  Those are facts.  Just watch them impartially, as if you were making a documentary about someone else’s life.

Take a moment or two and get curious about what your mind will do next, and simply observe   your thoughts the way you’d idly watch fluffy clouds float across a summer sky.

Now, go back and check your emotions again.  Miraculously, they will have dissolved or at least reduced!  Of course, the situation will still be there, but you’ll find yourself breezing through.

Seriously, read this again and follow exactly what I have described the next time you’re feeling overwhelmed or stressed. Because it works!

(2) Change your inner monologue.

If you pay attention, you’ll catch yourself mentally saying things such as: “I can’t cope.  I’ll never get through this.  It’s all falling apart,” or similar unresourceful sentiments.

Those messages won’t help you get through.

Instead, tell yourself, “This too will pass.  If I break this down into bite-sized chunks I can easily do it.  I’ve coped with worse.  Someday I’ll look back on this and laugh – so I might as well start now!”

 

Read more:

http://www.richardaluck.com/videos/help-i-am-stressed-3-uncommon-strategies-to-manage-stress/

The Power Of the Subconscious Mind

Our thoughts, intentions, and beliefs have scientifically proven effects on the external world.

They also have the power to manifest the things we desire in our life.

Here is an awesome video explaining the power of the subconscious and conscious mind, and how you can use them to create the reality you want!

One of the best books out there:

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4:24 Science behind changing a thought pattern
10:14 Why affirmations dont work.
12:30 Empty affirmation
20:12 Feeling is a language, how to manifest correctly, feeling is the prayer
21:51 Force that holds universe together
25:13 We’ve come full circle
27:21 We are more than our mistakes, we are more than our limits

 

Originally posted here:

http://thespiritscience.net/2014/07/11/the-power-of-the-subconscious-mind-gregg-braden-unveils-the-secrets-of-how-to-manifest-anything/

Attract the Life you Truly Deserve

Would you like to be able to put the Law of Attraction to work for your benefit? To activate the energy of the universe and turn your dreams into realities?

The Law of Attraction works. If you move through the world confident of your worth and expecting good things, they’ll be drawn to you. Tell the Universe what you want, by acting as if you already know with every cell in your body that it will come, and wait for it to arrive. Change the way you think about what you deserve, and you’ll get everything you’re entitled to. And you can do all of that in just a few hours – with help from hypnosis.

The four cosmic sessions in the Law of Attraction Hypnosis Bundle will help you recondition your thought patterns, letting you get a clear picture of what you want, appreciate what you already have, exude positive energy, and attract the success that’s rightfully yours!

Ignite the Law of Attraction in your life! Change your thinking to turn belief into reality and to enable the cosmos to bring you what you want. Connect your subconscious mind with real-world goals to manifest what you desire and change your life for the better, with the minimum of effort.

  • Activate the Law of Attraction right now!
  • Ask for what you need, and know you’ll get it
  • Replace hope with expectation and need with desire
  • Overflow with positive, enjoyable, wonderful anticipation

Be thankful for what you’ve got, knowing that you’ve already been fortunate in so many ways. Learn to count your blessings so the concept of “wanting” has no hold over you. Discover the power to focus on what you have, rather than on what’s missing from your life, and simply let the universe deliver the rest!

 

Read more:

http://www.hypnosislive.com/law-of-attraction-hypnosis-bundle

Out Of Body Experiences

Are out-of-body experiences valid?  Or are they just illusory products of glitches in the brain?  Dr. Crookall at the University of Aberdeen has written 9 books on out-of-body cases due to the overwhelming amount of evidence in their favour. A survey of 380 Oxford students showed that 34% had an OBE. A separate survey of 902 adults revealed that 8% have had an OBE. In a study of 44 non-Western societies, only 3 did not hold a belief in OBEs. Another study showed that out of 488 world societies, 89% had at least some tradition regarding OBEs.  So this phenomenon is familiar and lots of people claimed to have experienced it before, but is there any scientific credibility to this phenomenon?

A fascinating experiment was done by Dr. Charles Tart, who was a Professor Emeritus of Psychology at the University of California. He had also served as a Visiting Professor in East-West Psychology at the California Institute of Integral Studies, and as an Instructor in Psychiatry at the School of Medicine of the University of Virginia.  A study he published in the Journal of the American Society for Psychical Research may be the most infamous OBE study ever done.

He documented the out-of-body experience of a young woman who was one of his research subjects.  She was in a room with nothing but a bed, a shelf, a clock, and an observation window where Dr. Tart observed from another room.  She also had electrical devices hooked up to her head to detect brain wave activities, which can be seen in the diagram below.

What  makes this particular out-of-body experience remarkable is that she was able to leave her physical body as Dr. Tart watched from the other room and read a 5-digit number of 25132 off of a piece of paper that was on a shelf in the corner of the room.  The number was at a significant distance above the bed so that she would not be able to read the number even if she was standing, and she reported seeing the correct number him upon return to her physical body which remained attached to the bed as she was being watched. EEGs, REMs, and galvanic skin response were all recorded before and during her OBE which indicated a significant alteration in the readings during the time she left her body. Her OBE a good example of “veridical perception” which is where verified events are observed while in an out-of-body state.

As Dr. Tart concluded: “While the physiological data are limited by dependence on her retrospective report in correlating physiological pattern with the experience, it seems as if her out-of-body experiences occurred in conjunction with a non-dreaming, non-awake brain wave stage characterized by predominant slowed alpha activity from her brain and no activation of the autonomic nervous system. Two incidents occurring in the laboratory provide suggestive evidence that the out of-the-body experiences had parapsychological concomitants.  In summary, this brief study found a fairly clear-cut correlation between several of Miss Z’s reported OOB experiences and a physiological pattern characterized by a flattened EEG with prominent alphoid activity, no REM or skin resistance activity, and normal heart rate”

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The #1 Mistake When Using the Law of Attraction

Maybe you can recall the day you found out that Santa wasn’t real.

The magic was gone forever.

But never mind, because here you are, all grown up, and along comes the law of attraction!

You don’t even have to send a note up the chimney any more; the law of attraction will give you whatever you desire just because you imagine it and believe in it.

Now, relax, it’s okay.  I’m not going to burst another bubble… at least not in the way you might think…  

Sure, the law of attraction exists, but it won’t just supply you with all the goodies you can imagine just because you imagine them.

Your imagination is an extremely powerful tool and certainly deserves not to be dismissed as “just your imagination.”  But (as I mentioned in Tuesday’s post) just because you can imagine a Ferrari in your driveway doesn’t mean one’s going to appear.

It’s so easy to believe that the reason the law of attraction hasn’t delivered is because you’re not “an expert visualizer”.  Or that you can’t master the focus required for deep meditation.  Or that you have several negative subconscious beliefs sabotaging your efforts (which, btw is most often the case).

However what I don’t want you to do is to have something to blame – and a reason to give up.  It didn’t work and life goes on.

So let’s start again.  This is the law of attraction, so what are you attracted to?  And what would make you attractive to it?

If you seriously, fervently want to own a Ferrari but you only feel worthy of the beaten up Ford you’ve been patching up for the last ten years, you might notice a mismatch.

Makes sense, right?

So don’t just put up a picture of a Ferrari under a fridge magnet, (or wherever you keep your dream board), start studying the lives, blogs and Facebook pages of Ferrari owners.  How do they carry themselves? 

What was their reaction to something stressful in their lives?

Trust me.  They didn’t get happy and positive after that car showed up!  They were attractive to the opportunities and people which opened up the doorways to Ferrari ownership.

So Model them.

Copy their body language – try it on like a new suit.

It may feel a little awkward to begin with, and that’s a clue.  That’s called “dissonance” and is giving you a sense of the gap between where you are and where you want to be.

Ask yourself what would it take to grow into it, to wear it in until it feels comfortable?

That’s how to use your imagination.

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Model the success, the lifestyle, whatever it is you want.  Become the person to whom the change you want to see is attractive.

 

Read more:

http://www.richardaluck.com/law-of-attraction/the-1-mistake-people-make-when-using-the-law-of-attraction/

Inner Arguments That Manifest As Struggle

If we’re experiencing any kind of struggle – with manifesting what we want, within our relationships, with our health or our bank accounts – the root cause is usually that we’re actually struggling within ourselves.

Our ego’s need for safety bickers with our Soul’s desire for self-expression. Our conscious mind is fighting with our subconscious belief system. Or maybe our inner wisdom and intuition is battling against a set of adopted values we’ve always upheld.

Here are the three most common inner arguments that we engage in, time and again.

They are not fun.

They do not create abundance.

They can’t be won.

1. I should want what I don’t really want.

We’re bombarded with messages all day long about what we “should” want. A close-knit family. A loving intimate relationship. A fit and active lifestyle. Work-life balance. A vibrant social life. A healthy diet. A six-figure income.

We should want to have it all … right?

But what if you are perfectly happy being single, enjoy the couch instead of the gym, are in love with your work to the point of obsession, and have no intention of ever giving up bacon?

All too often, we create struggle because what we think we “should” want and what actually makes us happy are two very different things.

If there’s a goal you keep struggling with, consider that it might not actually be YOUR goal at all. It might be a goal that you’ve adopted from society, your family, your friends, even your mastermind group.

Maybe you’re just regularly “shoulding” yourself into working out and leading a healthier lifestyle … but the Truth is that you don’t really want to!

Maybe you’re “shoulding” yourself into an automated sales funnel … but the Truth is, you really hate dealing with technology!

You can’t talk yourself into desire. You can try. But it’s not effective. Ever.

In fact, “shoulding” yourself into wanting what you don’t truly want may create so much preoccupation that you miss the boat on your ACTUAL Soul-inspired desires that call you into your true greatness.

2. I want you to want what you don’t really want.

It’s difficult pursuing our fullest potential when our partner, our family, and our friends are not at all interested in our vision.

Time and again, I see entrepreneurs invest huge amounts of time and energy trying to get their spouse “on board” with their big dream.

 

Read more:

http://www.empoweredsoul.com/three-no-win-arguments-that-manifest-as-struggle/