Get Back To Inner Peace After A Breakup

I used to be friends with several ex-boyfriends.

I would hang out with them regularly. I would invite them out on the weekends. I would chat with them on the phone.

One of them eventually became a best friend. My inner circle couldn’t understand how I could continue to include the men I had previously dated in my life. Some of those relationships had been challenging. A couple of those relationships hadn’t ended so well. But somehow after doing plenty of soul searching and licking my wounds, I found the space in my heart to continue to include them in my life, in a new way.

HOW IS THAT POSSIBLE?

Contrary to what you may believe, when a relationship ends, you don’t have to become archenemies or strangers with your ex. This concept may be foreign to you. Perhaps you had a relationship that was full of conflict. You could have been abused. Mistreated. The list could go on and on.

I am certainly not condoning ANY sort of mistreatment, abuse, disrespect, or inhumane act that you encountered. I am not going to convince you to remain in a toxic or unhealthy relationship. I definitely don’t want you to bypass the experience you had on a spiritual or emotional level either.

Sometimes the most loving thing we can do for ourselves and for another person is to say goodbye, permanently.

What I want for you post-breakup is to get back to a place of peace and wholeness within yourself.

This process MAY include your ex. Or it may look like letting him or her go for good. Either way, it is perfect because your choice will come from a place of deep love, trust and truth within you.

WHAT WE HAVE LEARNED ABOUT ROMANCE IS MOSTLY UNTRUE

This idea that we have to “hate our ex,” comes from a very outdated belief system. I believe that this idea was etched into our minds long before we even knew what dating was! Think back to when you were a child. You may remember those fairy tales of prince charming and the princess living, “happily ever after.” Those unrealistic storylines set you up for plenty of disappointment and failure in your future partnerships.

Romantic relationships are not about riding off into the sunset with your prince or princess and living a perfect fairy tale life.

It is important to feel loved. Laugh together. Have fun. Be supportive. Etc. But expecting that to occur ALL THE TIME is simply unrealistic.

Romantic partnership is there to foster your personal and spiritual growth. You evolve. You learn. That may occur through the blissful and the not so blissful moments in your partnership. Growing up, I longed to have a fairy tale romance. But after years of constant disappointment I knew I had to shift my perspective.

When I dropped my expectations and attachments around romance there was an immediate shift in how I related to men.

My current partnership is the closest experience I have ever had to a fairy tale. We aren’t riding off into the sunset on a white horse. We certainly have our ups and downs, but I am no longer controlling how it should unfold based on characters in a children’s book or a Hollywood movie. It has made for a far more organic, fluid and enjoyable ride.

 

Read More:

http://www.collective-evolution.com/2014/09/29/getting-back-to-inner-peace-after-a-breakup/

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The Power Of the Subconscious Mind

Our thoughts, intentions, and beliefs have scientifically proven effects on the external world.

They also have the power to manifest the things we desire in our life.

Here is an awesome video explaining the power of the subconscious and conscious mind, and how you can use them to create the reality you want!

One of the best books out there:

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4:24 Science behind changing a thought pattern
10:14 Why affirmations dont work.
12:30 Empty affirmation
20:12 Feeling is a language, how to manifest correctly, feeling is the prayer
21:51 Force that holds universe together
25:13 We’ve come full circle
27:21 We are more than our mistakes, we are more than our limits

 

Originally posted here:

http://thespiritscience.net/2014/07/11/the-power-of-the-subconscious-mind-gregg-braden-unveils-the-secrets-of-how-to-manifest-anything/

The Power of I’m Sorry

Do you remember the last time you felt like you deserved an apology but didn’t get one?  Maybe…

  • The waiter forgot about your table
  • They shipped you the wrong product
  • Your significant other embarrassed you in a group setting

Fill in your own blank.

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What impact did that have on your level of trust?

As sure as death and taxes, we will mess up.  How we respond, regardless of fault, can have a monumental effect on our relationships, yet apologizing is rarely discussed in business development circles.

I recall an audience member asking a sales trainer, “What do we do when we make a mistake”?  The trainer responded, “Be careful about apologizing.   If you admit to the mistake, you could have legal liabilities”.  While technically correct, that advice somehow didn’t feel right to me.

Shifts in thinking on this topic appear hopeful.  Even state governments, hospitals and insurance companies have abandoned legal posturing in favor of an apology approach.  “I’m sorry” legislation has been approved in 29 states and is gaining momentum.  To reduce the risk of litigation, New Jersey recently started the Sorry Works! Coalition.

Gaffes, slip-ups, and blunders present a fork in the road to relationship depth.  The proper apology, even in the most egregious circumstances, has the ability to strengthen relationships.   Even seemingly insignificant faux pas like arriving late for a meeting, mispronouncing someone’s name, or failing to include someone, present a moment of truth to building trust.

We’re a “fix it” society.   Somehow, we convince ourselves that if we just correct the problem – without an apology – we’re back to our original balance in the trust bank account.  That’s a myth.

So how do we build a worthy apology?

 

Read more:

http://trustedadvisor.com/trustmatters/the-power-of-im-sorry-the-four-rs-of-a-trustworthy-apology