If we’re experiencing any kind of struggle – with manifesting what we want, within our relationships, with our health or our bank accounts – the root cause is usually that we’re actually struggling within ourselves.
Our ego’s need for safety bickers with our Soul’s desire for self-expression. Our conscious mind is fighting with our subconscious belief system. Or maybe our inner wisdom and intuition is battling against a set of adopted values we’ve always upheld.
Here are the three most common inner arguments that we engage in, time and again.
They are not fun.
They do not create abundance.
They can’t be won.
1. I should want what I don’t really want.
We’re bombarded with messages all day long about what we “should” want. A close-knit family. A loving intimate relationship. A fit and active lifestyle. Work-life balance. A vibrant social life. A healthy diet. A six-figure income.
We should want to have it all … right?
But what if you are perfectly happy being single, enjoy the couch instead of the gym, are in love with your work to the point of obsession, and have no intention of ever giving up bacon?
All too often, we create struggle because what we think we “should” want and what actually makes us happy are two very different things.
If there’s a goal you keep struggling with, consider that it might not actually be YOUR goal at all. It might be a goal that you’ve adopted from society, your family, your friends, even your mastermind group.
Maybe you’re just regularly “shoulding” yourself into working out and leading a healthier lifestyle … but the Truth is that you don’t really want to!
Maybe you’re “shoulding” yourself into an automated sales funnel … but the Truth is, you really hate dealing with technology!
You can’t talk yourself into desire. You can try. But it’s not effective. Ever.
In fact, “shoulding” yourself into wanting what you don’t truly want may create so much preoccupation that you miss the boat on your ACTUAL Soul-inspired desires that call you into your true greatness.
2. I want you to want what you don’t really want.
It’s difficult pursuing our fullest potential when our partner, our family, and our friends are not at all interested in our vision.
Time and again, I see entrepreneurs invest huge amounts of time and energy trying to get their spouse “on board” with their big dream.