Take a look at your life, the things you like and the things you don’t like about your current reality. Do you want to change your entire life? Sometimes we feel stuck and we just need a little shift in perspective to begin to change our reality into something we are excited to experience.
insanity according to Albert Einstein. So what is it that we need to change?
Often the answer to life’s questions are contained in their opposites. What I mean by that is you have to shift your focus from what you have always done and look at the opposite action. If you keep doing what you are doing then you will keep getting what you are getting in life.
Changing your thinking will work its way down into changing your life but in order to change your thinking often you have to open your mind to new ideas and concepts that are so far outside of your typical reality that they may seem strange or uncomfortable.
Being uncomfortable or feeling awkward is often the result of bouncing up against one of the walls of your mental boxes. We want to grow, expand our awareness, achieve our dreams and become more spiritual but in order to do this we have to redefine and remove our mental boxes.
So as a practice, tell your inner voice to listen to what I am about to say, breathe it in and feel what the idea means. Pretend for one moment it IS true so that you can experience the impact of this new idea in your life.
The present is not the result of the past, and the future is not the result of the present.
What does this mean? Well I am going to allow the channeling of Bashar to shed some light on this before I continue. Check out this short yet mind blowing explanation about the power you have over your reality right now!
I used to be friends with several ex-boyfriends.
I would hang out with them regularly. I would invite them out on the weekends. I would chat with them on the phone.
One of them eventually became a best friend. My inner circle couldn’t understand how I could continue to include the men I had previously dated in my life. Some of those relationships had been challenging. A couple of those relationships hadn’t ended so well. But somehow after doing plenty of soul searching and licking my wounds, I found the space in my heart to continue to include them in my life, in a new way.
HOW IS THAT POSSIBLE?
Contrary to what you may believe, when a relationship ends, you don’t have to become archenemies or strangers with your ex. This concept may be foreign to you. Perhaps you had a relationship that was full of conflict. You could have been abused. Mistreated. The list could go on and on.
I am certainly not condoning ANY sort of mistreatment, abuse, disrespect, or inhumane act that you encountered. I am not going to convince you to remain in a toxic or unhealthy relationship. I definitely don’t want you to bypass the experience you had on a spiritual or emotional level either.
Sometimes the most loving thing we can do for ourselves and for another person is to say goodbye, permanently.
What I want for you post-breakup is to get back to a place of peace and wholeness within yourself.
This process MAY include your ex. Or it may look like letting him or her go for good. Either way, it is perfect because your choice will come from a place of deep love, trust and truth within you.
WHAT WE HAVE LEARNED ABOUT ROMANCE IS MOSTLY UNTRUE
This idea that we have to “hate our ex,” comes from a very outdated belief system. I believe that this idea was etched into our minds long before we even knew what dating was! Think back to when you were a child. You may remember those fairy tales of prince charming and the princess living, “happily ever after.” Those unrealistic storylines set you up for plenty of disappointment and failure in your future partnerships.
Romantic relationships are not about riding off into the sunset with your prince or princess and living a perfect fairy tale life.
It is important to feel loved. Laugh together. Have fun. Be supportive. Etc. But expecting that to occur ALL THE TIME is simply unrealistic.
Romantic partnership is there to foster your personal and spiritual growth. You evolve. You learn. That may occur through the blissful and the not so blissful moments in your partnership. Growing up, I longed to have a fairy tale romance. But after years of constant disappointment I knew I had to shift my perspective.
When I dropped my expectations and attachments around romance there was an immediate shift in how I related to men.
My current partnership is the closest experience I have ever had to a fairy tale. We aren’t riding off into the sunset on a white horse. We certainly have our ups and downs, but I am no longer controlling how it should unfold based on characters in a children’s book or a Hollywood movie. It has made for a far more organic, fluid and enjoyable ride.
As science has steadily undermined the long-held beliefs of religion, almost all that remains for people of faith is to say that God is and will forever be a mystery. Insofar as Einstein was religious, he possessed a feeling of awe and wonder at the mystery of the universe. But science hasn’t stopped chipping away at mystery, promising to reduce spiritual experience to measurable brain activity. It’s doubtful that belief in God, the soul, heaven and hell, and other tenets of faith will be drastically affected – polls continue to show that these things remain articles of belief for around 80-90% of responders.
Will neuroscience eventually be able to locate God in our neurons, and if so, should that tiny area of the brain be excised or boosted? No doubt there are arguments on both sides, depending on whether you hold that God has been good for the human race in the long run or bad. Setting aside such judgments, it turns out that the possibility of finding God in the brain creates a baffling mystery that neither religion nor science can tackle alone.
Now that advanced brain scanning can map the way our brains light up with each thought, word, or action, it’s clear that no experience escapes the brain. For a mystic to see God or feel his presence, for St. Paul to be suddenly converted on the road to Damascus, or for St. Teresa of Avila to have her heart pierced by an angelic arrow, such experiences would have to register in their brains. However, this indisputable fact (so far as present knowledge extends) doesn’t give science the advantage over religion. For it turns out that the brain has definite limitations on what it can experience.
The work of the late Polish-American mathematician Alfred Korzybski (1879-1950) is relevant here, because Korzybski worked out the layered processing that goes into the way we perceive everyday reality. Billions of bits of data bombard our sense organs, of which only a fraction enter the nervous system. Of that fraction, more of the raw input is filtered out by the brain, which uses built-in models of reality to discard what doesn’t fit. When people say “You’re not hearing me” or “You only see what you want to see,” they are expressing a truth that Korzybski tried to quantify mathematically.
Sometimes the things a person doesn’t see are simply outside the range of human experience, like our inability to see ultraviolet light. But a great deal more depends on expectations, memories, biases, fears, and simple close-mindedness. If you go to a party, and someone tells you that you are about to meet a Nobel Prize winner, you will see a different person than if you are told he is a reformed Mafia hit man. When all the filtering and processing is complete, there is no doubt that the brain doesn’t actually experience reality but only a confirmation of its model of reality.
Two interesting points follow:
- All models are equal as viewed from the level of the brain.
- Reality transcends any model we can possibly make of it.
These two points allow God, the soul, and all other spiritual experiences back into the picture. The first point demolishes the notion that science is superior to religion because it gathers facts while religion deals in beliefs. In truth, science filters out and discards a huge portion of human experience – almost everything one would classify as subjective – so its model is just as selective, if not more so, than religion’s. As far as the brain is concerned, neural filtering is taking place in all models, whether they are scientific, spiritual, artistic, or psychotic. The brain is a processor of inputs, not a mirror to realty.
We are on earth with one passion to discover and share
I love this myth. You know, there are some people on the planet who have one passion that transcends their entire lifespan. But imagine you’re like my friend Marie. She was passionate about sewing. She sewed new cushion covers for her entire office and home. She made hats for everybody’s Christmas gifts. She was so good and passionate about it that she said to all her friends “Finally—I’ve discovered my life’s purpose!” Only to be confronted 2 months later that she had an epiphany on her morning hike that she was now meant to teach yoga and it was time to enlist in a yoga teacher training.
She followed that guidance and became a yoga teacher. She shared the yogic teachings for several years, until one day again while in a deep meditation she was met with a flash of knowing that it was time to share her gift of mediumship.
As you can see, life is a delicious ride of twists and turns. Some people will find one passion for their entire lifetime. Others will find passion within a multitude of different modalities. Thinking that there is only one right passion in life can cause anxiety of “getting it wrong.”
It’s impossible to get your passion wrong!
Trust that what you’re in love with and that which flows with ease at this moment is divinely guided passion. When you practice staying present, you will know if your passion changes.
That if This IS TRULY your path, it will be easy
I first heard this from a spiritual teacher of mine. When she told this to me I felt an instant hit of inner knowing that this was true, and that it was such a pervasive myth in spiritual circles.
You see, in many spiritual circles you’re told that if you’re meant to be doing your [insert your soul-guided work here] then it will come easily to you.
The truth is, sometimes the form by which you will share your soul-work may look different than the image you had envisioned.
Take my friend Nancy for example, she is a spiritual clairvoyant and a registered psychotherapist. For years she tried to make her clairvoyant-work be her main source of income. She thought to herself “Shouldn’t it come easy if I’ve been given these gifts? Shouldn’t it just work out if this is my path!?”
She started to see that her gift of clairvoyance actually helped her patients in her psychotherapy path immensely. It ended up helping the people that normally would not have access to her gifts nor those who would not actively be searching out for a clairvoyant healer.
It took many years but she started to see that the path you think will be easy isn’t always the road you will travel. Sometimes the form of how we share our gifts will be different than what we imagined.
You cannot say anything negative for if you do, you will bring crisis to you
I’m all for positive psychology. However it’s a misleading conception that if you dare say any negative statement or feel a negative feeling that you’ll be damned.
The truth is that we’re here on the planet to feel the full range of emotions and to be honest with ourselves about it.
If you feel like it’s wrong to “be sad” or wrong to “feel empty” or any other so-called negative emotion, we actually end up blocking ourselves from the present moment.
When we resist the truth of our emotions we actually keep them around longer. They end up getting buried and we’ll wonder why our positive psychology or that law of attraction isn’t working for us.
The wonderful and brilliant scientists over at the Institute of HeartMath have done some amazing work in shedding light on some very significant findings regarding the science of the heart.
The Institute of HeartMath is an internationally recognized nonprofit research and education organization dedicated to helping people reduce stress, self-regulate emotions and build energy and resilience for healthy, happy lives. HeartMath tools, technology and training teach people to rely on the intelligence of their hearts in concert with their minds at home, school, work and play.
A large portion of their research has investigated heart and brain interaction. Researchers at the institute have examined how the heart and brain communicate with each other and how that affects our consciousness and the way in which we perceive our world.
Their research has shed light on a number of facts, one for example, is when a person is feeling really positive emotions like gratitude, love, or appreciation, that the heart beats out a very different message. They’ve been able to determine this by the fact that the heart beats out the largest electromagnetic field produced in the body, and they can gather data from it.
“Emotional information is actually coded and modulated into these fields. By learning to shift our emotions, we are changing the information coded into the magnetic fields that are radiated by the heart, and that can impact those around us. We are fundamentally and deeply connected with each other and the planet itself.” – Rolin McCratey , Ph.D, Director of Research at the Institute.
This is very important work, as again, it shows how the heart plays an important role far beyond what is commonly known. Did you know that your heart emits electromagnetic fields that change according to your emotions? Did you know that the human heart has a magnetic field that can be measured up to several feet away from the human body? Did you know that positive emotions create physiological benefits in your body? Did you know that you can boost your immune system by conjuring up positive emotions? Did you know that negative emotions can create a nervous system chaos, and that positive emotions do the complete opposite? Did you know that the heart has a system of neurons that have both short term and long term memory, and that their signals sent to the brain can affect our emotional experiences? Did you know that in fetal development, the heart forms and starts beating before the brain is developed? Did you know that a mother’s brainwaves can synchronize to her baby’s heartbeats? Did you know that the heart sends more information to the brain than vice versa?
Like his above mentioned contemporaries, however, his native roots were deep, leaving him in the unique position of being a conduit between cultures. Though his movement through the white man’s world was not without “success” — he had numerous movie roles in Hollywood — his enduring legacy was the protection of the way of life of his people.
By the time of his death he had published 4 books and had become a leader at the forefront of the progressive movement aimed at preserving Native American heritage and sovereignty, coming to be known as a strong voice in the education of the white man as to the Native American way of life. Here, then, are 10 quotes from the great Sioux Indian Chief known as Standing Bear that will be sure to disturb much of what you think you know about “modern” culture.
1) Praise, flattery, exaggerated manners and fine, high-sounding words were no part of Lakota politeness. Excessive manners were put down as insincere, and the constant talker was considered rude and thoughtless. Conversation was never begun at once, or in a hurried manner.
2) Children were taught that true politeness was to be defined in actions rather than in words. They were never allowed to pass between the fire and the older person or a visitor, to speak while others were speaking, or to make fun of a crippled or disfigured person. If a child thoughtlessly tried to do so, a parent, in a quiet voice, immediately set him right.
3) Silence was meaningful with the Lakota, and his granting a space of silence before talking was done in the practice of true politeness and regardful of the rule that ‘thought comes before speech.’…and in the midst of sorrow, sickness, death or misfortune of any kind, and in the presence of the notable and great, silence was the mark of respect… strict observance of this tenet of good behavior was the reason, no doubt, for his being given the false characterization by the white man of being a stoic. He has been judged to be dumb, stupid, indifferent, and unfeeling.
4) We did not think of the great open plains, the beautiful rolling hills, the winding streams with tangled growth, as ‘wild’. Only to the white man was nature a ‘wilderness’ and only to him was it ‘infested’ with ‘wild’ animals and ‘savage’ people. To us it was tame. Earth was bountiful and we were surrounded with the blessings of the Great Mystery.
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Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room.
One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs.
His bed was next to the room’s only window.
The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back.
The men talked for hours on end.
They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation..
Every afternoon, when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window.
The man in the other bed began to live for those one hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and color of the world outside.
The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake. Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats. Young lovers walked arm in arm amidst flowers of every color and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance.
As the man by the window described all this in exquisite details, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine this picturesque scene.
One warm afternoon, the man by the window described a parade passing by.
Although the other man could not hear the band – he could see it in his mind’s eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words.
Days, weeks and months passed. One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths only to find the lifeless body of the man by the window, who had died peacefully in his sleep.
She was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take the body away.
As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could be moved next to the window.
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Stress has a bad rap – and for good reason. Trying to avoid it or reduce it though, can be like one of those Chinese tortures where the more you try to wriggle free the tighter it wraps itself around you!
Stress is a reaction to too many demands on our time, or overwhelm of some kind. The key to freeing yourself from it is hidden in plain sight in my previous sentence, however.
It’s a reaction to circumstances. You can’t usually control the situation, but you can always choose how you react!
You see? Stress comes from trying to control everything when there are simply too many things to control.
Stop trying to do that and the stress will evaporate!
Here are three effective ways to do that. (Feel free to come up with more of your own.)
(1) Separate your emotional reaction from the situation.
Find three minutes for this. (You have to use the bathroom sometime, don’t you?)
Sit quietly and close your eyes. Now, pay attention to your feelings about whatever is going on.
Let them become intense and then, on a zero to ten scale, (ten being unbearable), grade them.
Now, mentally put those feelings to one side and cast your mind over the facts of the situation.
You know: the boss wants that report yesterday, the kids’ birthday party won’t organize itself, and your bathroom is flooded. Those are facts. Just watch them impartially, as if you were making a documentary about someone else’s life.
Take a moment or two and get curious about what your mind will do next, and simply observe your thoughts the way you’d idly watch fluffy clouds float across a summer sky.
Now, go back and check your emotions again. Miraculously, they will have dissolved or at least reduced! Of course, the situation will still be there, but you’ll find yourself breezing through.
Seriously, read this again and follow exactly what I have described the next time you’re feeling overwhelmed or stressed. Because it works!
(2) Change your inner monologue.
If you pay attention, you’ll catch yourself mentally saying things such as: “I can’t cope. I’ll never get through this. It’s all falling apart,” or similar unresourceful sentiments.
Those messages won’t help you get through.
Instead, tell yourself, “This too will pass. If I break this down into bite-sized chunks I can easily do it. I’ve coped with worse. Someday I’ll look back on this and laugh – so I might as well start now!”
Our thoughts, intentions, and beliefs have scientifically proven effects on the external world.
They also have the power to manifest the things we desire in our life.
Here is an awesome video explaining the power of the subconscious and conscious mind, and how you can use them to create the reality you want!
One of the best books out there:
4:24 Science behind changing a thought pattern
10:14 Why affirmations dont work.
12:30 Empty affirmation
20:12 Feeling is a language, how to manifest correctly, feeling is the prayer
21:51 Force that holds universe together
25:13 We’ve come full circle
27:21 We are more than our mistakes, we are more than our limits
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