Get Back To Inner Peace After A Breakup

I used to be friends with several ex-boyfriends.

I would hang out with them regularly. I would invite them out on the weekends. I would chat with them on the phone.

One of them eventually became a best friend. My inner circle couldn’t understand how I could continue to include the men I had previously dated in my life. Some of those relationships had been challenging. A couple of those relationships hadn’t ended so well. But somehow after doing plenty of soul searching and licking my wounds, I found the space in my heart to continue to include them in my life, in a new way.

HOW IS THAT POSSIBLE?

Contrary to what you may believe, when a relationship ends, you don’t have to become archenemies or strangers with your ex. This concept may be foreign to you. Perhaps you had a relationship that was full of conflict. You could have been abused. Mistreated. The list could go on and on.

I am certainly not condoning ANY sort of mistreatment, abuse, disrespect, or inhumane act that you encountered. I am not going to convince you to remain in a toxic or unhealthy relationship. I definitely don’t want you to bypass the experience you had on a spiritual or emotional level either.

Sometimes the most loving thing we can do for ourselves and for another person is to say goodbye, permanently.

What I want for you post-breakup is to get back to a place of peace and wholeness within yourself.

This process MAY include your ex. Or it may look like letting him or her go for good. Either way, it is perfect because your choice will come from a place of deep love, trust and truth within you.

WHAT WE HAVE LEARNED ABOUT ROMANCE IS MOSTLY UNTRUE

This idea that we have to “hate our ex,” comes from a very outdated belief system. I believe that this idea was etched into our minds long before we even knew what dating was! Think back to when you were a child. You may remember those fairy tales of prince charming and the princess living, “happily ever after.” Those unrealistic storylines set you up for plenty of disappointment and failure in your future partnerships.

Romantic relationships are not about riding off into the sunset with your prince or princess and living a perfect fairy tale life.

It is important to feel loved. Laugh together. Have fun. Be supportive. Etc. But expecting that to occur ALL THE TIME is simply unrealistic.

Romantic partnership is there to foster your personal and spiritual growth. You evolve. You learn. That may occur through the blissful and the not so blissful moments in your partnership. Growing up, I longed to have a fairy tale romance. But after years of constant disappointment I knew I had to shift my perspective.

When I dropped my expectations and attachments around romance there was an immediate shift in how I related to men.

My current partnership is the closest experience I have ever had to a fairy tale. We aren’t riding off into the sunset on a white horse. We certainly have our ups and downs, but I am no longer controlling how it should unfold based on characters in a children’s book or a Hollywood movie. It has made for a far more organic, fluid and enjoyable ride.

 

Read More:

http://www.collective-evolution.com/2014/09/29/getting-back-to-inner-peace-after-a-breakup/

Help – I Am Stressed!

Stress has a bad rap – and for good reason.  Trying to avoid it or reduce it though, can be like one of those Chinese tortures where the more you try to wriggle free the tighter it wraps itself around you!

Stress is a reaction to too many demands on our time, or overwhelm of some kind.  The key to freeing yourself from it is hidden in plain sight in my previous sentence, however.

It’s a reaction to circumstances.  You can’t usually control the situation, but you can always choose how you react!

You see?  Stress comes from trying to control everything when there are simply too many things to control.

Stop trying to do that and the stress will evaporate!

Here are three effective ways to do that. (Feel free to come up with more of your own.)

(1) Separate your emotional reaction from the situation.

Find three minutes for this.  (You have to use the bathroom sometime, don’t you?)

Sit quietly and close your eyes.  Now, pay attention to your feelings about whatever is going on.

Let them become intense and then, on a zero to ten scale, (ten being unbearable), grade them.

Now, mentally put those feelings to one side and cast your mind over the facts of the situation.

You know: the boss wants that report yesterday, the kids’ birthday party won’t organize itself, and your bathroom is flooded.  Those are facts.  Just watch them impartially, as if you were making a documentary about someone else’s life.

Take a moment or two and get curious about what your mind will do next, and simply observe   your thoughts the way you’d idly watch fluffy clouds float across a summer sky.

Now, go back and check your emotions again.  Miraculously, they will have dissolved or at least reduced!  Of course, the situation will still be there, but you’ll find yourself breezing through.

Seriously, read this again and follow exactly what I have described the next time you’re feeling overwhelmed or stressed. Because it works!

(2) Change your inner monologue.

If you pay attention, you’ll catch yourself mentally saying things such as: “I can’t cope.  I’ll never get through this.  It’s all falling apart,” or similar unresourceful sentiments.

Those messages won’t help you get through.

Instead, tell yourself, “This too will pass.  If I break this down into bite-sized chunks I can easily do it.  I’ve coped with worse.  Someday I’ll look back on this and laugh – so I might as well start now!”

 

Read more:

http://www.richardaluck.com/videos/help-i-am-stressed-3-uncommon-strategies-to-manage-stress/

The #1 Mistake When Using the Law of Attraction

Maybe you can recall the day you found out that Santa wasn’t real.

The magic was gone forever.

But never mind, because here you are, all grown up, and along comes the law of attraction!

You don’t even have to send a note up the chimney any more; the law of attraction will give you whatever you desire just because you imagine it and believe in it.

Now, relax, it’s okay.  I’m not going to burst another bubble… at least not in the way you might think…  

Sure, the law of attraction exists, but it won’t just supply you with all the goodies you can imagine just because you imagine them.

Your imagination is an extremely powerful tool and certainly deserves not to be dismissed as “just your imagination.”  But (as I mentioned in Tuesday’s post) just because you can imagine a Ferrari in your driveway doesn’t mean one’s going to appear.

It’s so easy to believe that the reason the law of attraction hasn’t delivered is because you’re not “an expert visualizer”.  Or that you can’t master the focus required for deep meditation.  Or that you have several negative subconscious beliefs sabotaging your efforts (which, btw is most often the case).

However what I don’t want you to do is to have something to blame – and a reason to give up.  It didn’t work and life goes on.

So let’s start again.  This is the law of attraction, so what are you attracted to?  And what would make you attractive to it?

If you seriously, fervently want to own a Ferrari but you only feel worthy of the beaten up Ford you’ve been patching up for the last ten years, you might notice a mismatch.

Makes sense, right?

So don’t just put up a picture of a Ferrari under a fridge magnet, (or wherever you keep your dream board), start studying the lives, blogs and Facebook pages of Ferrari owners.  How do they carry themselves? 

What was their reaction to something stressful in their lives?

Trust me.  They didn’t get happy and positive after that car showed up!  They were attractive to the opportunities and people which opened up the doorways to Ferrari ownership.

So Model them.

Copy their body language – try it on like a new suit.

It may feel a little awkward to begin with, and that’s a clue.  That’s called “dissonance” and is giving you a sense of the gap between where you are and where you want to be.

Ask yourself what would it take to grow into it, to wear it in until it feels comfortable?

That’s how to use your imagination.

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Model the success, the lifestyle, whatever it is you want.  Become the person to whom the change you want to see is attractive.

 

Read more:

http://www.richardaluck.com/law-of-attraction/the-1-mistake-people-make-when-using-the-law-of-attraction/

Money vs Spirituality

The root of all evil? The “stinking rich?”

What’s going on? How did money ever get such a bad rap? And why is it so often regarded as mutually exclusive to spirituality?

I’m going to attempt to address all of those big questions and come to a sensible conclusion in one brief article … so stick with me!

Consider for a moment, what you know of some of the world’s poorest places.

You will have seen plights and plagues caused by lack of education, medical help or roads and transport – things you and I take for granted.

Now imagine that you’d like to help.

Would you be of more use to the people who inhabit those areas by becoming one of them – or by giving them something which costs money?

Clearly, you can’t give what you do not have, and whilst becoming poor yourself may certainly give you understanding of their plight, you would be a burden to them since you’d be one more mouth to feed!

So which is more spiritual:

To give or share from your material wealth, or to resist acquiring wealth yourself because it’s unfair when so many people have so little?

Frankly, I can’t see how keeping yourself poor is helpful or spiritual.

I know there are also those who strongly believe that they should not receive financial reward for healing since, in their view, the healing comes from spirit and they are merely the channel or conduit.

They may well be right, but as far as I can see the “channel” or “conduit” is a physical person who needs to put bread and butter on the table and to pay their bills just like the rest of us embodied folk!

Without the presence of the “channel” or “conduit” presumably the healing couldn’t happen. So I think a handsome tip just for turning up wouldn’t go amiss!

Here’s another thing:

Money is neutral.

I know reasonably wealthy people who are afraid to let money go because they grew up in poverty and can’t quite shake the fear that a time of shortage could return.

To my mind that doesn’t make them un-spiritual. It means that perhaps they need a little help to let go of their fears, because they are to some degree imprisoned by them.

I also know relatively poor people who are against acquiring more because they believe they’re really not capable of the higher degree of success which would bring more income.

Once again, I see people who need help with their self-esteem.

 

Read more:

http://www.richardaluck.com/videos/money-vs-spirituality-can-i-really-have-both/

Water Is Not A Human Right

When the point of the game is to make as much money as you can, you’d be surprised what the rich will try to monetize.

Water is the one thing we need to have every day in order to be healthy and to survive.

You can go a while without eating, but you’re dead in days if you don’t drink any water.

But according to the (now former) CEO of Nestle, that resource is Not a human right and should not be owned by the public,

but is a resource that should be sold at prices they set.

Watch the video and see for yourself:

 

 

 

Originally posted here:

http://higherperspective.com/2014/11/privatize-water.html

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7 Ways To Discover Your Life Purpose

Living a life of purpose is a key essential ingredient for happiness. So many people all over the World are realizing they can’t just work some dead end, unfulfilling job that doesn’t nourish the soul.

We are also realizing we perform our best when we are doing something we like and are naturally good at.  That’s where your life-purpose begins! It feels good to make a contribution and to feel as though you are doing your small personal part to make the World a better place.

Imagine a World where everyone is living their life-purpose – doing what they love. How quickly could things change for the betters?

So here’s a start, 7-Ways to Discover Your Life Purpose:

1) Consider Your Highest-Excitement

So often we can get stuck in the motions of life without stopping to consider what truly fulfills us, makes us happy and excites us to our very core. Take a moment to consider and then towrite down all of the things in life inspiring to you and don’t worry about how it relates to your life purpose for right now…

Once you have done that, take a look at your list. Do you notice any themes or patterns? Living a purposeful life is always multi-faceted, why not be a surf instructor and a life coach? Sounds pretty awesome to me.

I often say, if I’m living my life-purpose I feel like I’m thriving, and if I’m not, I feel like I’m dying. I now know my highest excitement is my internal GPS back to my purpose.

2) Pay Attention to How You Spend your Spare Time

What do you do when no one is watching? And don’t just say Netflix!

Think about how you spend your spare time, and what you gravitate towards when you have extra time on your hands. Is it drawing, writing, making YouTube videos or even watching YouTube videos? Are you a gamer?

Pay attention to these things, as they are all the guide posts and arrows pointing you towards your life purpose. Plenty of people are here to create art, inspiring media or support other people in simple yet humble ways.

The healthy things you are inclined to do are either going to be part of your life-purpose or compliments to it.

3) Consider What You Loved to Do as a Kid

Children are so wise and do all sorts of intelligent, unassuming things. When you were a kid I bet there were a number of fun activities you loved doing. As kid…

– How did you play & what kind of toys did you play with?

– Who did you like to hang out with?

– What field trips were your favorite?

– What kind of toys did you like to play with?

– What were your favorite things to do?

Revisiting your childhood is one of the best routes to discover your life purpose. Many secrets live in our 5 year old’s curious experience of the World.

4)  Ask for Guidance in Your Dream

This is an often overlooked and powerful tool when you are seeking guidance of any kind. But specifically in regard to your life purpose, set a little intention before bedtime.

Something like: “Dear Dream Guides, I ask that you reveal and guide me to my life purpose in my dreams tonight.”

When you wake up, make sure to remember your insights and write them down! This is a very powerful tool.

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17 greatest sexy soaking-wet boobs GIFs you will ever see!

We’ve already brought you 74 pictures of girls getting their wonderful boobs soaking wet,

but we thought we’d go one better: moving images!

So cool off, then get very steamed-up as these sizzling hot girls get their boobs absolutely sopping wet.

 

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See all 17 here:

http://www.zootoday.com/girls/news/the-xx-sexiest-and-greatest-wet-t-shirt-gifs-you-will-ever-see

 

 

 

Bonus:

Fracking Makes People Sick

new study provided more ammunition for what public health experts and environmental activists have been saying since fracking became widespread in the last half decade: chemicals used in the natural gas drilling process can be hazardous to health.

The study “Proximity to Natural Gas Wells and Reported  Health Status: Results of a Household Survey in Washington County, Pennsylvania,” published yesterday in Environmental Health Perspectives,found that people who live near fracking sites have more health problems than those who don’t.

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The Yale-based research team that produced the study looked at families in southwestern Pennsylvania’s Marcellus shale region who use ground-fed water wells. Surveying 492 individuals in 180 households, researchers found a significantly greater number of skin and respiratory problems among those who lived within one kilometer of a natural gas well than those who lived two kilometers away.

Washington County has 624 active gas wells with 95 percent of those fracked.

“Despite assurances by the drilling industry and numerous government officials that fracking chemicals do not pose a risk to nearby populations, scientists and environmentalists have repeatedly voiced concern over the high volume of chemicals used in the process and the potential for both groundwater and airborne contamination,” writes Lauren McCauley at Common Dreams.

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The researchers explained the impetus for the studying saying, “Little is known about the environmental and public health impact of unconventional natural gas extraction activities including hydraulic fracturing that occur near residential areas.”

“While much of the hydraulic fracturing process takes place deep underground, there are a number of potential mechanisms for chemicals used in the fracturing process as well as naturally occurring minerals, petroleum compounds, and other substances of flow back water to enter drinking water supplies,” they warned. “If contaminants from hydraulic fracturing activities were able to enter drinking water supplies or surface water bodies, humans could be exposed to such contaminants through drinking, cooking, showering, and swimming.”

 

Read more:

http://themindunleashed.org/2014/09/fracking-literally-makes-people-sick-new-study-finds.html

Extraordinary Moments in Photography

Here you can find some of those photos that are really extraordinary.

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(you can run , but you can’t hide 🙂  )

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checking the tire pressure 🙂

 

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don’t move and say cheese :))

 

To see more go here:

http://www.magickriver.org/2008/11/some-extraordinary-moments-in.html

Seizing Control of Our Destinies

In 1381, at a time of great repression for the British agricultural work force, an extraordinary people’s revolutionary named Wat Tyler sprang to his feet and announced, “England should be a nation of self governing communities,” to which he added, “ No lord shall exercise lordship over the people, and, as we are oppressed by so vast a hoard of bishops and clerks, the property of the holy church should be taken and divided.”

His colleague, the priest John Ball, spoke out with equal fervour, “The lords’ claims to be more lords than we are rests solely on their power to force us to labour that they may spend.”

A great surge of support for these proclamations swept through the farming communities of South East England, quickly spreading further North. The farmers took up arms – whatever appropriate implements they could find in the farmyard – and set out on their mission to free themselves from the wicked landlords and clerks, who between them were taxing the life out of the farming communities throughout the land, destroying the livelyhoods of thousands of countryside families.

Many a pernicious bureaucrat was confronted by this motley army, with the brave farmer, Wat Tyler, proudly riding at its head – and many a selfish landlord was forced to concede his greedy rental regime and bow to the demands of the British peasants.

And yes, blood was shed in the struggle to gain respect for basic human rights.

A great quest for liberation, justice and equality blazed amongst the downtrodden land-workers and villagers of fourteenth century England during those famous months of The Peasant’s Revolt. Only an act of royal treachery finally stopped this revolution from fully undermining the corrupted power of the State and the intransigence of King Richard II.

Why do I tell this story?

Because more than six hundred years after this peasant uprising shook the nation, we have come full circle. Once again the call is going out for peoples and regions under the hand of oppressive, dictatorial regimes, to cecede from the nation state and become ‘self governing communities’. Wat Tyler’s heroic stand echoes down the ages and nourishes the cause of non-compliance and community actions that stand up against the ever more insidious tentacles of centralised power.

Right now there are one hundred and fifty communities in the United States redefining their right to self govern and pushing forward their programmes for localised renewable energy and ecological food security. Not only this, they are also rewriting the laws that govern their communities and declaring citizens’ charters – banning GMOs and initiating local seed saving actions. They are also declaring the right to clean water and are making ‘fracking’ a criminal offence.

In the process, through collective acts of civil disobedience, they are stripping the corporate world of its powers. These communities are able to show how the notion that corporations have some form of sovereign power – is a facade – how it is people who hold sovereign power, as Wat Tyler made plain all those years ago. And it is people who must again exercise that power.

All over the World such stirrings are gaining momentum. Actions to reclaim powers usurped by that toxic cocktail of government and corporate collusion, are breaking out. If such stands are being taken in the US heartlands of corporate and government connivance – then it proves that the will of the people is more powerful than the will of the heirarchical cabal whose ambition it is to control all aspects of our lives. We should draw strong inspiration from these game changing actions – and increase our own determination to go in the same direction.

The time has come for all awakening individuals to hone a definite life strategy. A strategy that puts us in the driver’s seat and empowers us to set a new course – one imbued with creative inventiveness, courage and mutual support.

We have arrived here because of the accumulated evidence which overwhelmingly proves that the status quo is a fraud – designed to strip us of our powers of judgement and the determination to act on that judgement. There is no time for further deliberation of the pros and cons of this or that political polemic. It’s all a miasma. A massive sham. A sham which we continue to uphold as long as we go on playing along with its sense of self importance; giving it a status it does not actually possess, and then sheltering under its poisoned wing.

 

Read more

http://themindunleashed.org/2014/07/seizing-control-destinies.html